Reducing parental conflict

As evidence increases to show how frequent, poorly resolved inter-parental conflict can impact children’s mental health and long-term chances, support for parents must be easily accessible and non-stigmatised.

Arguing and conflict between parents is often a normal part of everyday life. Resolving disagreements is an important life lesson children often learn from parents and other significant relationships.

Sometimes arguing escalates or overwhelms. Togetherness is here to help and prevent conflict getting out of control.

Supporting parents and carers from as early as pregnancy and throughout their developing journey as parents, we help people to read behaviour as communication, to understand their own feelings and wellbeing, reflect on how they express these feelings, and to learn about rupture and repair.

Here you can learn about the impact of ongoing intense and poorly resolved relational stress on the developing brain, be supported with self-reflection techniques and develop conflict resolution skills.

Training and resources for practitioners

Training practitioners working with families for over 25 years, Togetherness transcends professional disciplines to introduce a theoretic framework to support emotional processing, understand behaviour as a communication and provide an understanding of the importance of relationships.

2 Day Foundation Training – for everyone who works with families

Workshop delivery training – to run face-to-face or online programmes for parents

Togetherness training supports professional development and can also equip practitioners to deliver training to others or to deliver structured group sessions. Digital learning pathways for parents provide a trusted, evidence-based signpost for independent reflection and learning.

For parents

Togetherness is home to a range of resources including structured online learning pathways available for all parents to help understand brain development and emotional health and wellbeing throughout their parenting journey. Many parents will find they are in a prepaid area for funded free access.

Learning pathways

Understanding your relationships

Online pathway

Designed to be accessible to all parents and adults to support an understanding of emotional health and relationships. The pathway is delivered through 11 stages, accessed independently, privately and at the learner’s own pace. It also provides a helpful scaffold for practitioners delivering 1:1 Early Help work or group sessions.

Emotional intelligence and self-exploration: understanding your own needs and communication style while recognising others
Communication and containment: understanding how to get what you need while also fostering active listening skills 
Conflict resolution: developing strategies to manage conflict and control anger or frustration and repairing when things go wrong 
Parenting and relationships: exploring parenting and childhood to understand how early experiences shape emotional health and resilience 
Practical support: ideas and approaches to help you get the best out of yourself and others

Measuring impact and outcomes

Understanding your relationships features embedded measures, available to sponsors of Multi-User Licences, to support impact monitoring as follows:

Pre and post questionnaires (Relationship Satisfaction Scale)
Additional conflict specific pre-post questionnaire item
In-course satisfaction surveys
NHS Family and Friends’ recommendation
Aggregated anonymised data reports available to sponsors of Multi-User Licences
Pianta Child-Parent relationship scale with additional item relating to parental conflict